Below you will find 3 months worth of things to do for your husband.  Do them over and over, substituting the books for other Christian marriage books that you've heard are helpful.  Look at this website's books on marriage section for more ideas. 

If you' don't want to purchase the books, go ahead and choose 1 of the other ideas to fill in on the "start reading this book to day" lines.  You don't have to purchase anything to make this work.

Try doing these things each day for your husband, and watch your marriage grow!

MONTH 1

Day:

1. Dress up in a nice outfit just to greet him at the door when he comes home.

2. Get Martha Peace's book The Excellent Wife and start reading it today.

3. Request his opinion about something you might not usually request his opinion about.  Thank him for his opinion and do not criticize it at all.

4. Give a comment of appreciation for something well done.

5. Give him a hug for no apparent reason.

6. Make a good meal for him.  Put effort into making something he will really enjoy!

7. Thank him for doing a simple task today.

8. Give him alone time after he gets home from work, to do whatever he wants.

9. Spend some time cuddling him.

10. Give him a foot massage.

11. Look up the word RESPECT.  Now show it to him today!

12. Give him a surprise visit at work.

13. Let go of something that bothers you.  Pray about it and give it to God.

14. Send him flowers, or drop off a rose in his car while he is working.

15. Take him on a surprise trip (overnight?)

16. Pray for him.  Send him a note or e-mail telling him you did this.

17. Ask him what pleases him and what could make you a better wife in his eyes.

18. Iron his clothes.

19. Chart your menstrual cycle and the days that you are most grumpy.  Make a list of the true qualities about your mate and husband, and look at this list when you are feeling grumpy to remind yourself what the truth is.

20. Choose to turn the TV off and to avoid TV shows, movies, books, etc., that give poor and inadequate descriptions of what your husband and your marriage ought to look like.

21. Look up verses about your role as a wife.

22. Do not complain about anything today.

23. Think about the friendships that you have--which ones positively influence your marriage and which ones don't?  Pray about this, and then make some changes. 

24. Think about 1 or 2 issues that usually come up in your arguments.  Spend some time praying about these things today.

25. Work hard at making your home a place of rest for him.

26. Read Proverbs 12:4 and meditate on it.

27. Look into going to a Family Life marriage conference.

28. Think about something on your schedule you can drop to spend more time with your husband.

29. Take him on a picnic!  If it's cold out, have a picnic on your family room floor!

30. Put a love letter in his lunch box.

MONTH 2

Day:

1. Schedule a date for your husband that you plan for him!

2. Get Dr. Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, and start reading it today!

3. Make dinner pretty tonight.  (Ideas:  Candles, a table cloth, etc.)

4. Think about practical ways of making your husband your #1 priority (above the kids and everything else!).  Set some goals for yourself.

5. Plan something fun for your husband to do with a guy or two to encourage his friendships.

6. Take a little time to read about how Jesus treated others (in Matthew, Mark, Luke or John) and treat your husband the same way today.

7. Make a yummy dessert for your husband.

8. Do something off of his to do list today.

9. Read the Song of Solomon with him today.

10. Think about his birthday and what you will get him or do for him.

11. Play a game together.

12. Do not ask anything of him today.

13. Take time out on the couch with him today.

14. Offer him time alone in the garage, or time alone to read a book.

15. Participate in one of his favorite recreations with him--fishing, golfing, game-playing, etc.  Think about it

16. Do not complain about your life today at all.

17. Randomly give your husband a big hug today!

18. Encourage him to do something fun with his guy friends.

19. Before talking about anything else tonight, ask him how his day went and listen intently.

20. Spend some time praying about your role as a wife, and pray that God would lead you each day.

21. Pray with your husband before going to sleep tonight.

22. Do not utter one breath of criticism today.  Hold your tongue!

23. Look up the word "Verb" and remember that LOVE is a verb.

24. Read the Proverbs 21:9.  Meditate on it.

25. Wake up and offer to pray for his day before he goes off to work.  Make sure to get up early enough so that he isn't late.

26. Thank him for doing a simple task today.

27. Send him a note in the mail today (to be delivered at his work, or even at home), telling him how much you love him.  Decorate it like you may have done for your buddies in junior high!

28. Give him a back rub.

29. Make him a candle light dinner.

30. Thank him for going to work today.

MONTH 3

1. Think of all the ways he is your "hero" or knight in shining armor.  Make a list and share it with him.

2. Get the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and start reading it today.

3. Let go of something that really doesn't matter.  Pray about it and give it up to God.

4. Let him know that you love him unconditionally.  Look up the word "unconditional."

5. Give your husband 5 compliments today.

6. Thank your husband for doing the yucky jobs around the house.

7. Do whatever you can to make sure your home is picked up and you look pretty for your husband when he gets home today.

8. Don't intervene in the way he does things.  Let him have his own style.

9. Go on a walk together and hold hands.

10. Give him a facial!

11. Look up the word CONTROLLING.  Make sure that you are not controlling!

12. Set out clothes for him to wear to work tomorrow--make sure they are freshly laundered and ironed.  Extra idea--put a note in the pocket to tell him how much you love him!

13. Look through your wedding photos or watch your wedding video and remember the positive events and feelings that surrounded that day (do NOT focus on anything negative).

14. Keep in mind today that the only thing you can control is YOU.

15. Remember that Jesus sacrificed Himself for us.  Practice living like him in your marriage today.

16. Read Proverbs 31.

17. Be the sunshine in your husband's life today.  Make him smile, give him an encouraging word, and give him a hug.

18. Make your husband glad that he came home to you today.  Give him a big hug and a kiss.

19. Think of one of your flaws today (not one of his!) and thank him for always putting up with it.

20. Play footsies at the dinner table.

21. Read Proverbs 25:24 and Proverbs 27:15.

22. Call him at work today just to tell him you love him.  Do not complain about your day, just tell him you love him and focus on him.

23. Plan a date for him today.  Go somewhere he would like to go.

24. Make sure that he gets to sit at the head of the table tonight.

25. Give him a back rub.

26. Write down all of the reasons you adore your husband, and show this list to him.

27. Look up the word GIVING, and make sure you are a giving wife.

28. Spend some time praying about your role as a wife and ask God to lead you each day.

29. Wake up early and make him breakfast today.

30. Make him laugh today.